MYTH: Anal Sex will hurt
TRUTH: It only hurts if you are doing something wrong.

Pain in the human body is a sign that something is not right. That applies to anal sex too! If something hurts, it's your body's way of saying that something is not right, and to stop!

There is a myth that is perpetuated by the porn industry that anal sex is supposed to hurt. Watch almost any anal sex porn and you can find extremely bad actors pretending that they are in pain as they are being penetrated. Porn producers think pain is erotic and "macho." The funny thing is that if you watch any behind the scenes or "making of porn" video, you will find that when it does really hurt, they stop the action and correct the problem. The actors won't put up with it!

The truth is that pain is unusual unless both partners are being ignorant of each other's bodies. Pain comes from not using lube, entering too fast without warm up (not being relaxed enough), or ramming things in that are too long. Done properly, anal sex should NEVER hurt!
Education, Relaxation, Lubrication = Anal Pleasure

MYTH: The anus is dirty
TRUTH: Not necessarily, yet it can also be cleaned!

Most of us have a great deal of unwarranted fear about our anus being "dirty." While it CAN be messy at times, it's generally unusual and almost always preventable. I have been penetrated HUNDREDS of times (without being rinsed out) and I can only recall 3 instances where it was messy. Since I have learned to rinse out, I have NEVER had a problem.

As you learn to rinse out your rectum and pay attention to your bowel movements you can prevent it from being messy.

MYTH: Anal Sex is wrong/bad/sinful and wasn't meant to be
TRUTH: Mankind has been having anal sex for thousands of years, moral judgments have come and gone

The same goes for oral sex, sex without marriage, masturbation... blah, blah, blah. Give me a break!
Religions and Governments have been making up moral rules to control people for eons but that does prevent people from doing what comes natural. Anal sex has been going on for thousands of years. You can see it on Ancient Greek pottery, paintings, drawings and read it in poems going back as far as you can dig. While the rules about it have come and gone, man has been doing it forever. It's natural and normal. Don't believe the bullshit.

MYTH: Only gay men play with their ass
TRUTH: Sexual Orientation has no bearing on a desire to explore one's anus

Many guys fear that if they desire to stick things up their ass, that this makes them gay some how. Ironically, even with this fear being so prevalent in the male population, there are MANY guys who are NOT gay who explore their anus with , fingers, dildo's or even penetration by another man. The sensations are SO AMAZING, how can anyone resist?

The truth is that most desires to explore one's anus are really psychological desires to heal past trauma's left over from the way our culture handles potty training. A great deal of negative programming and fear is released in the process. Most men and women find they have some desire to explore their anus. It's a completely natural process that has nothing to do with one's sexual orientation.

Interestingly, there are many modern cultures that have so many rules and limitations on males having sex with women, that it's become quite natural and normal for straight guys to fuck each other as a means of sexual release. They don't see it as being gay, they see it as getting their needs met until they can get a women they are allowed to have sex with.

MYTH: Being penetrated is only for females or effeminates
TRUTH: Being penetrated does not make or imply you are feminine

In many places around the world today allowing yourself to be penetrated (fucked) by another man has no bearing on your gender role or sexuality. It is seen as simply an exchange of sexual pleasure. Two men take turns simply to get their needs met. Yet there are other cultures (like in the US) where being penetrated is seen as something that is feminine or submissive. That you have to be effeminate to be penetrated, or that it some how lowers your standing as a man.

I have penetrated or watched VERY masculine men get penetrated. They lose nothing from the process, on the contrary, they experience a great deal of pleasure. How feminine or masculine a person is has no bearing on whether they enjoy being penetrated or not.

MYTH: Only the "top" (person penetrating) gets pleasure from anal sex
TRUTH: Being penetrated is a HIGHLY pleasurable experience

While the pleasure is difficult to describe, the sensations one gets from being penetrated are extremely pleasurable and erotic. There are some people who can orgasm from simply being penetrated and no other stimulation. While this is not the norm, it says something significant about the sensations of being penetrated.

I have often used dildos to heighten the pleasure of masturbation. After you get over the initial awkwardness of anal play, you find the pleasure can be very intensely erotic. While there are still many times that I want to do the thrusting and penetrating, I am always eager to trade places and then experience the pleasure of being penetrated by another.