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One of the most common gay sex toys is the dildo.
Dildos often come in a larger than life size, and can present a fun challenge to a bottom. They can also be used as a substitute, when a man isn't available! Dildos can also provide a good way for a guy who has never been a bottom, but wants to, to get used to having something up his ass.
For gay men who think that they would never want to stick anything up their ass for pleasure, have an open mind (...and an open ass!). Using a dildo can be very pleasurable.

Your ass is delicate, and can be easily injured. From your anus, it extends up into your body only about 15 cm (6") before it bends 90 degrees. Be careful sliding something up your ass that is longer than 15 cm; it can be done, slowly, with the dildo bending inside you, and your colon re-arranging itself! Don't force anything up your ass if it hurts! Dildos are made to be somewhat soft and flexible; inserting hard objects (bottles, poles) can not only be uncomfortable, but they can injure you unnecessarily. Use plenty of lube when using a dildo, so that it will be easier to slide in and out of your ass.

Although dildos are sometimes viewed as a "man substitutes", the difference in sensation can be substantial between having a dildo or a cock up your ass. When you play with a dildo in your ass, you are totally in control and can maximize the intensity you can achieve, through longer strokes, twisting the dildo, and varying the angle of the dildo; that level of control is not possible when another guy is fucking you with his cock. It can be a great deal of fun to have your partner fuck you not only with his cock, but also with a dildo.
While preferences vary by individual, vibrators are generally not the dildo of choice for most gay men. They can break down easily, are relativley inflexibile, and frankly, do not provide anywhere near the same degree of stimulation that can be achieved manually with a dildo.

Dildos come in a wide variety of styles, lengths, girth, colors, and flexibility. There are some that have a base, making it easier to place on a flat surface and sit on. Try a variety of dildos! Many guys like to increase the length and girth of dildo that they use, over time. There are also double-headed dildos that you and your partner can both use at the same time, although it can take a bit of practice for you to both to insert the dildo in your own ass without disturbing the action of your partner!
Prior to using a dildo, you should void your bowel, and be clean. See Anal Sex - Being a BOTTOM" for more information about this.

If you're new at using dildos, take things slowly. You may also find it easier to start with a dildo that is smaller in size -- particularly the girth.
Many guys find it easiest, when first playing with a dildo, to lie on their back, and bring their legs up to their chest, providing easy access to their ass by reaching around their butt. However, you can use whatever position you want - kneeling, squatting, laying on your side. Over time, you can try various positions.
Start by applying plenty of lube to the head and shaft of the dildo, and to the opening of your ass. Gently place the head of the dildo up to the opening of your ass. Get used to the feeling of having it their. It can be stimulating to move it up and down your ass crack too.
When you are ready, gently push just the head of the dildo into your ass opening. Try not to clench your ass-hole. Don't push the dildo in any further, at first. Get used to the feel of just the end of the dildo in your ass.

When you've gotten used to having the first bit of the dildo in your ass, and you are ready for more, first make sure that you are pointing the dildo angled towards your stomach, not parallel to your stomach. Try aiming for a point mid-way between your navel and the base of your cock. Gently slide the dildo in a bit further.
Each time you slide the dildo a bit further into your ass, pause while you get used to the feeling. Don't feel that you have to slide the entire length of the dildo into your ass! Some guys like to take in a longer length than other guys. You can build up to comfortably taking longer lengths up your ass over time.

You can try gently sliding part of the dildo shaft length in and out of your ass. This can be very pleasurable! You can also try rotating the dildo, and gently changing the angle at which the dildo enters your ass. Most men find it highly stimulating to have their prostate gland "massaged" with a dildo.
Some men like to stand a dildo upright on the floor, squat over it, then sit down on it so that it slides up their ass. Follow the same general guidelines and procedures outlined above, using plenty of lube, and taking things slowly at first.

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	One of the most common gay sex toys is the dildo. Dildos often come in a larger than life size, and can present a fun challenge to a bottom. They can also be used as a substitute, when a man isn't available! Dildos can also provide a good way for a guy who has never been a bottom, but wants to, to get used to having something up his ass. For gay men who think that they would never want to stick anything up their ass for pleasure, have an open mind (...and an open ass!). Using a dildo can be very pleasurable.
	Your ass is delicate, and can be easily injured. From your anus, it extends up into your body only about 15 cm (6") before it bends 90 degrees. Be careful sliding something up your ass that is longer than 15 cm; it can be done, slowly, with the dildo bending inside you, and your colon re-arranging itself! Don't force anything up your ass if it hurts! Dildos are made to be somewhat soft and flexible; inserting hard objects (bottles, poles) can not only be uncomfortable, but they can injure you unnecessarily. Use plenty of lube when using a dildo, so that it will be easier to slide in and out of your ass.
	Although dildos are sometimes viewed as a "man substitutes", the difference in sensation can be substantial between having a dildo or a cock up your ass. When you play with a dildo in your ass, you are totally in control and can maximize the intensity you can achieve, through longer strokes, twisting the dildo, and varying the angle of the dildo; that level of control is not possible when another guy is fucking you with his cock. It can be a great deal of fun to have your partner fuck you not only with his cock, but also with a dildo. While preferences vary by individual, vibrators are generally not the dildo of choice for most gay men. They can break down easily, are relativley inflexibile, and frankly, do not provide anywhere near the same degree of stimulation that can be achieved manually with a dildo.
	Dildos come in a wide variety of styles, lengths, girth, colors, and flexibility. There are some that have a base, making it easier to place on a flat surface and sit on. Try a variety of dildos! Many guys like to increase the length and girth of dildo that they use, over time. There are also double-headed dildos that you and your partner can both use at the same time, although it can take a bit of practice for you to both to insert the dildo in your own ass without disturbing the action of your partner! Prior to using a dildo, you should void your bowel, and be clean. See Anal Sex - Being a BOTTOM" for more information about this.
	If you're new at using dildos, take things slowly. You may also find it easier to start with a dildo that is smaller in size -- particularly the girth. Many guys find it easiest, when first playing with a dildo, to lie on their back, and bring their legs up to their chest, providing easy access to their ass by reaching around their butt. However, you can use whatever position you want - kneeling, squatting, laying on your side. Over time, you can try various positions. Start by applying plenty of lube to the head and shaft of the dildo, and to the opening of your ass. Gently place the head of the dildo up to the opening of your ass. Get used to the feeling of having it their. It can be stimulating to move it up and down your ass crack too. When you are ready, gently push just the head of the dildo into your ass opening. Try not to clench your ass-hole. Don't push the dildo in any further, at first. Get used to the feel of just the end of the dildo in your ass.
	When you've gotten used to having the first bit of the dildo in your ass, and you are ready for more, first make sure that you are pointing the dildo angled towards your stomach, not parallel to your stomach. Try aiming for a point mid-way between your navel and the base of your cock. Gently slide the dildo in a bit further. Each time you slide the dildo a bit further into your ass, pause while you get used to the feeling. Don't feel that you have to slide the entire length of the dildo into your ass! Some guys like to take in a longer length than other guys. You can build up to comfortably taking longer lengths up your ass over time.
	You can try gently sliding part of the dildo shaft length in and out of your ass. This can be very pleasurable! You can also try rotating the dildo, and gently changing the angle at which the dildo enters your ass. Most men find it highly stimulating to have their prostate gland "massaged" with a dildo. Some men like to stand a dildo upright on the floor, squat over it, then sit down on it so that it slides up their ass. Follow the same general guidelines and procedures outlined above, using plenty of lube, and taking things slowly at first.