A kiss, is just a kiss. Right? Wrong! A kiss sets the mood for
your entire sexual experience with your partner. If he's a bad kisser, you might
as well put your clothes back on, go home, and jerk off.
The key to good kissing is to actively use your lips. I've
kissed guys that didn't use their lips at all. They would just tense up their
lips and leave them like that. It felt like I was trying to kiss a statue.
Relax or at least, make a mental effort to relax, your lips.
Allow them to be soft and pliable. As you start to kiss, try gently brushing
your partner's cheek with them, or run them along his neck just barely making
contact with his skin.
Don't be afraid to use your breath. Nothing gets me hotter
than feeling someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean
gently) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my neck, back, and
arms.
This type of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely
sensual, and builds up sexual tension. It can also serve to establish nonverbal
communication between the two of you. His reactions to this sort of foreplay
will give your first indications of his overall sexual responsiveness.
As you get into it, you'll probably start using your tongue.
Run or flick your tongue across his lips, moistening them slightly without
actually kissing him. When you do finally kiss, make sure to lick your own lips
from time to time to ensure their softness. It's not very pleasant to kiss
someone whose lips have the texture of sandpaper.
When you use your tongue on his neck, gently run it around his
earlobe and ear. If you feel like it, suck on his earlobe - but not his ear. You
may want to cover his entire ear with your mouth and gently exhale. Try not to
inhale while doing this, and don't exhale too quickly because the rushing air
will make him feel like he's in a wind tunnel.
When starting to "French" kiss, open your mouth just slightly.
I can't tell you how many times I went to French someone and he opened his mouth
widely sticking his tongue all the way out. I felt like I was frenching a horse.
You're trying to kiss here ... not eat a Big Mac!
Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue into his mouth,
and vice versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner's
tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, making him feel like you're trying to
rip his tongue from his mouth.
Try gently nibbling or sucking on your partner's lips. Feel
their texture, softness, and even their taste with your tongue. Though it's
generally subtle and easily unnoticed, the lips of different men do actually
have their own unique flavor. Be a creative kisser.
Always be aware of your teeth. It's not really pleasant to be
French kissing someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth.
Though teeth can effectively be used for fun. A light bite or nibble on your
partner's chin can be a display of passionate sexual aggression :-)
When kissing someone - kiss him the same way you enjoy being
kissed. Think back and remember a guy you really enjoyed kissing. How did he
kiss you? What was so different about the way he kissed you? Try imitating those
methods with your future partners.
I've found that most guys kiss with their eyes closed. Ignore
the impulse to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them occasionally.
It adds a new perspective to the experience.
When kissing other parts of your partner's body see if you can
find his sensitive areas without asking him where they are. Explore his body
with your lips, and pay attention to his feedback. Does he tense up? Does he
hold you tighter? Does his breathing change? Is he smiling, etc.?
Some commonly sensitive areas are - love handles, the insides
of thighs, the belly button, nipples, armpits, the small of the back, backs of
knees, and so on. The "hot spots" vary greatly from one guy to another, as do
degrees of sensitivity. Again, closely read his feedback, or he may end up being
bored when you're earnestly doing your best to stimulate him.
Once again don't be afraid to use your imagination - be
creative, be playful, have fun with it. If you make an effort to be in-tune with
your partner, chances are he'll return the favor and both of you will have a
better time.
If you're a guy that says, "kissing is not my thing", then
you've just wasted about 5 to 10 minutes of your time reading this.