Toys can spice up your sex life! If you're looking for
something to give your sex life that extra kick - then toys are the things that
can do it.
I always thought about playing with toys, but never
went out and got any - until a friend of mine on the east coast helped out and I
now have a couple in my possession. One of the most common toys is the dildo.
These are (can be) fun to use.
They usually come in a larger than
life size, and can present a fun challenge to a bottom. They can also be used as
a substitute, when a man isn't available. Someone once said to me, "I would
never stick anything artificial up my ass for the sake of pleasure." I pity him-
when I got "test drive" my dildo I was in 7th heaven. Here's a picture - of the
dildo boys, of the dildo! Not of me using it!
It should be noted that I've had quite a bit more experience
with dildos and some other toys since this "sexguide" was first written. Though
a sequel is on the way where I will be exploring other areas of queer sexuality,
I do want to add something to this section.
Dildos are often seen as "man substitutes". This isn't really
accurate because the difference in sensation between having a dildo or a cock up
your ass, is like the difference between night and day. There is a level of
intensity you can achieve by being screwed with a dildo that is near impossible
to have with a man. This is one of the reasons why it's a great deal of fun to
have your partner fuck you not only with his cock, but also with a dildo. Mind
you I'm not saying that one experience is better than the other. What I am
saying is that they are very different and they complement one another.
When buying a dildo, I wouldn't waste money buying vibrators, they
break down, are a pain to use, and frankly don't do that much for a man. If you
are going to pick one up, I recommend getting one that's nicely textured (lots
of veins) and is of a good size that you can handle. I had the occasion to use a
double headed dildo with someone in the past and that was a lot of fun!
For those of you not familiar with them - what you see wrapped
around the dildo is a cock ring. The way a cock ring works is that it constricts
blood flow out of a penis, but not into it. So more blood is flowing into your
cock and less out. I should note that you put it on around your shaft and your
balls, not just the shaft. This has the effect of making your cock even harder
than normal. A lot of men who have problems maintaining a hard-on for extended
periods of time, are rather fond of them. A cock ring works for almost anyone,
and is certainly a lot of fun for your partner because your cock gets a lot more
texture to it.
Unless you know exactly the size that you need for your cock,
I would recommend staying away from the metal ones. They can be very difficult
to put on, and even more difficult to take off if you start feeling discomfort.
The rubber ring cock rings are pretty much a waste of money. They tend to be a
pain because they often pull on the hairs on your crotch. So for those starting
out, I would recommend one that is made out of leather and has metal snaps on it
so that you can adjust it to for different sizes and levels of tightness.
Now a lot of things can be a toy. There a lot of things I've
fantasized about that I look forward to trying one of these days. Some of the
things that were suggested to me - whipped cream placed on strategic parts of
the body. For added taste you could add strawberries.
Try putting an ice cube in your mouth while like licking
various parts of your partner's body, or even while giving him a blowjob. For
those of you that are beer drinkers (I have done this one) - try taking a
mouthful of beer and sucking your partner's cock with the beer in your mouth.
He's bound to give you a reaction of one sort or another.
When flight attendants work on a flight, we sometimes rinsed
our hands with champagne, and it felt wonderful! Have you thought of trying to
pour champagne over parts of your partner's body?
Various articles
of clothing can also constitute toys. Jockstraps for example - ever try fucking
some one with a jockstrap on? Snapping the straps of his jock against his ass
while you fuck him. It would certainly be an interesting visual. Speedos, lycra,
spandex, silk, and other such things have always turned me on tremendously. I
love a guy in a Speedo, or silk briefs. It's fun to tease him by fondling his
cock, licking it, even trying to suck him through that soft smooth material.
I look forward to trying more and more toys in the future, and I
hope you do as well after reading this.
One last thing before I let you go. This page hasn't recently
been updated to reflect my recent explorations within the realm of toys. Such an
update is in the works, but until it's up and running I do want to leave you
with a link to an excellent resource both for buying typical and hard to find
sextoys, as well as expanding your boundaries by exploring all that is out
there. I found Mr. S Leather Co. and Fetters U.S.A. in San Francisco to be
absolutely the best place to make your kinky purchases, with a knowledgeable,
courteous, and very friendly staff. So give them a visit, and tell them I sent
you !!!