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*Some Practical Safety Tips for Beginners
1. FOR SUBS - Never go for a BDSM session without telling another trusted person where you are going to be. Even if you have to tell your friend or relative that you are just meeting another friend or going out for dinner, always make sure that you give the Master�s contact number and the place where you are going to, in case of mishaps.
2. FOR SUBS - Never allow an inexperienced Master to practice BDSM on you! You could get seriously injured, permanently disfigured or even killed by accident. You should make sure that the person is an experienced Master by asking him some pertinent questions first and always start by talking to him and discussing all your preferences and fears first. He should also tell you what he likes to do, if you agree with his preferences and how you can both agree about what can be done and what should NOT be done. REMEMBER that BDSM without mutual consent is real rape and torture!
3. FOR DOMS - Never practice BDSM on another person unless you are an experienced Master � the only way to become an experienced Master is get an experienced Master to teach you by demonstrating on a willing Sub � or else become a Sub to an experienced Master and learn the limits and safety rules the hard way! You could accidentally injure, scar or kill your Sub or Slave if you do not know the safety rules and practices!
4. FOR SUBS - Never agree to be immobilized or tied up until you are completely helpless the first session � and never unless you absolutely trust the Master. A good Master who knows that you are a beginner (or a �virgin� Sub/slave) will earn your trust step by step. He will tie you up lightly first so that you can get free easily the first time and progress to more difficult bondage as you both learn each other�s limits over time.
5. FOR SUBS - Always state your likes, preferences and limits at the first meeting. This could save you an uncomfortably painful session at best and save your life at worst! Different people have different pain tolerance. One Sub might be able to stand having his penis or nipples pinched, poked or bitten until they are bleeding and he will find it sexy but you might not be able to stand that, especially if you are a beginner, so make sure that you tell your potential Master just how far you are prepared to go and if you find the experience too painful, say the Safe Word immediately!
6. FOR DOMS - Never force a Sub to go beyond his limits too quickly! You could accidentally injure him or scar his body. You should ask the Sub to explore and widen his limits in gradual stages, e.g. if he can stand having his nipples pinched hard, then proceed to light clips and then stronger or heavier clamps step by step instead of biting his nipples straight away. Biting the Sub�s nipples at the beginning could be too painful and too sudden for a beginner and if he tries to pull away without warning, you could accidentally bite a piece of flesh out!
7. FOR SUBS � If you enjoy role play, e.g. you are a captured prisoner who is going to get raped, don�t be shy to tell the Dom EXACTLY what you want and don�t want! If you are too shy to be truthful, he could end up forcing you to do something you never want to do, e.g. he could penetrate your anus when all you wanted to do was to be forced to suck his penis � or he could do Scat or a Golden Shower on you and you don�t have spare clean clothes to change. Imagine having to go home with the smell of another guy�s shit or piss all over your body!
8. FOR DOMS � Never allow cock or ball bondage to progress beyond 45 minutes unless the ropes are loose! If you tie up a Sub�s penis or balls tightly, the sensitive tissues will start to lose oxygen after 45 minutes and die � you could cause gangrene (his cock and balls will fall off) and blood poisoning (he will die) in your Sub�s genitals.
9. FOR SUBS � Never allow cutting or any activity such as piercing or poking until blood comes out! Blood is a body fluid and you could get AIDS from a tiny pinprick. Safe poking can be done with toothpicks or blunted satay sticks but only a very experienced Master or Dom can use a steel needle on your flesh without causing cuts, scratches or breaking the skin. If you would like to experience real piercing some day, where the needle actually enters your flesh some day, make sure the Dom sterilizes the needle by burning it with a lighted match or lighter and then wiping it clean with ice-cold alcohol. A hot needle acts like a branding iron and can cause burn scars.
10. If you are in doubt or are not sure about anything, DON�T DO IT! Whether you are a Dom or a Sub, if at any time you are not sure about something, whether it is simply whether the Sub will like it or something that could be dangerous, it is better to play it safe.
11. It takes time to get to know the other guy�s preferences and limits so don�t rush things � it could be dangerous! Take it slowly and find out what is enjoyable and what is not before going for a full session or role playing. If you don�t know just how much pain feels sexy to a Sub, for example, you could end up torturing him for real. Once you know how much pain is sexy and enjoyable and what a Sub will or will not do or how willing he is to take more punishment, then you can indulge fully.